The Big Five Personality Traits (Part Three): Agreeableness.

A person with a high level of agreeableness in a personality test is usually warm, friendly, and tactful. They are usually unassuming, with an optimistic view of human nature, and thus get along well with others. They put others' interests above their own.

As would be expected, social harmony is an important goal for individuals with high Agreeableness traits. Hence, they tend to be helpful, friendly, considerate, and generous. Do you know anyone like this? How do you score against these traits?

On the slip side of Agreeableness is Hostility. It sits on the opposite end of the Agreeable spectrum. It is how "Hostile" a person is as against one who is "Agreeable," close, trusting, friendly, and cooperative. 

100% Agreeableness = 0% Hostility. We each fall somewhere on the spectrum, with a mixture of Agreeableness and Hostility. The sub-traits for Agreeableness include Trust, Morality, Altruism, Cooperation, Modesty, and Sympathy.

Well, I took the test some two (2) years ago. I scored 62.5% on Agreeableness. Does anyone need to contest that? Is that correct from your assessment? What does this confirm about me?

I won't contest it. It is just about right. I experience a great deal of empathy and tend to get pleasure from serving and taking care of others. I am usually trusting and forgiving until convinced otherwise. 

On the flip side, and possibly why my scores are no higher, "I hate the status quo." I love making things better because I believe everything, without exception, can be made better. That easily gets me in trouble EVERYWHERE I go.

It is very easy for me to entertain a critical spirit just because I am always conscious of how things can be done better. Now you know why I am not an "A" student on this trait.

Well like we said at the beginning, and now repeat, "No score really on the spectrum is bad or necessarily good. It just speaks of your tendency." What you do with it is up to your every moment decision. Remember we are "living souls." That is, a living will, intellect and emotions. We are the responsible party, not our tendencies, or instincts.

The Saint.

Links to Similar Articles:

The Big Five Personality Traits (Part Two): Conscientiousness.

The Big Five Personality Traits (Part Four): Neuroticism.

Knowing Myself is the Key to Knowing Others (Part Five)

Do You Own You?

“True freedom is impossible without a mind made free by discipline.” ― Mortimer J. Adler.

Until you own your body, soul, and spirit, you cannot own the world. That is to say, your WHY, purpose, and dreams might simply keep evading you.

You have to own yourself. There is no other way. Any religion and or practice that teaches you otherwise is not of God. You have to own your body, soul, and spirit. 

That is the only way you can bring them to the table in the issues of life. Four elements determine our disposition to life. 

These are our "Locus of Control," Neuroticism (our inability to control our emotions)," "Self-Efficacy (our belief in handling the affairs and challenges of our life)," and "Self-Esteem (the weight we give to ourselves, our interiority)."

As you can see, each spells ownership of self via self-control, patience, and discipline. It is the development of our conscious, subconscious, and intuitive minds to answer to us and our purpose in life.

Do you own you?

It's Your Neighbor.

St. Akin de Great.

© 2021 Akin Akinbodunse.

Naked and Not Ashamed:

You know the beauty and danger of being on Social Media is that you are exposed, naked. I am on Facebook, and I have a spectrum of people who know me from several different places, seasons, ages, lands, sectors, etc.

I can only thank God that I have NOTHING to be ashamed of. I am not saying I have, nor am I the best there is. No, no, no. Only grace has covered my shame. Like my wife often gets to say, "God has covered us."

It is amazing to have my course and level mates from University say beautiful things about me. Only a few days ago, one was saying I had an air of peace around me. Really? That was God and only could have been Him.

Little does he know of all the deep struggles I went through during those days in school. I had a crush on a beautiful sister I truly believed God wanted me to settle with but was too innocent, too dumb, and too nice (sincere) to make anything of it.

I struggled to try to understand God's leading. I had emotional ups and downs. I did not know myself, let alone knowing God as I thought I needed to. However, all in all, I was sincere. I was true to what I knew, though I was stupid, but yet sincerely stupid.

I guess that was and is what God honors, the sincerity of heart and purpose. And, I have seen that in other people's lives just as well. Guess why God chose Paul, the Apostle. In all his stupidity, religiosity, and zealousness, he was sincere.

I have seen my Pastor here in Houston grow over the years, as well as the church. He never went to Bible School. I have heard many people say funny disparaging things about him, both the true ones and the false ones.

What each of them failed to understand is God's patience and focus. He dwells in eternity. He does not dwell in the now. He sees beyond the now into eternity, and the only thing that projects is the sincerity of purpose in a person's heart.

What each of them failed to understand is God's patience and focus. He dwells in eternity. He does not dwell in the now. He sees beyond the now into eternity, and the only thing that projects into eternity is the sincerity of purpose in a person's heart.

So, when God checks your own heart today, what is He seeing? When He projects your heart into eternity, does it carry any weight? Can He speak well of you? Can He taunt Satan with your name in mind? Is He certain of where you stand?

St. Akin.