My wife on the other hand is big on this, and that use to be a source of conflict. As, she expects me to be like her. I sure am not. I am a strange bird. Acts of Service is not the way I affect people, or I am affected by people.
Yes, it moves my needle some, but sure not as much Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation. Those are my hunger points. Yet, there are those like my wife who are big on Acts of Service for whatsoever, or all reasons. And, we thus need to respect that.
It might, however, be false to think because someone does some things for you means they are into you. They might be doing it for a variety of reasons. Find out before you take off on a wrong track.
Yes, if you love someone, you should go out of your way to do things for them. However, not all going out of the way is necessarily love, or a show of affection. Know the difference, and know peace. Love gives, but not all giving is love.
"My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep; the more I give to thee, the more I have, for both are infinite." ― William Shakespeare.How foolish is it to suppose you can buy love? How so arrogant it is to think you don't have to? Yes, to love is to give, but not all giving is love. And, while at that, we might as well answer the troubling thought or question, "give what?"
As a young growing teen, I kinda convinced myself, "if she loves me, I'll not need to spin her." Really? How so dumb I was? So, I pursued a relationship for eleven (11) years, but it never really clicked. It hit the rocks. Why? I was too dumb to turn the switch.
We are each human, though spirits. We are not here to have a spiritual experience. We are here to have a human experience. Don't expect me to catch your love. If you love me, show it. One sure way we show love is by sacrifice, giving of gifts.
Even God loves and wants gifts. He does not see it as bribe or we arm twisting Him to do that which He does not want to do. Rather, after receiving, Noah's sacrifice, He became emotional - platonic and romantic. His soul blessed man.
If gifts moved God, how much more will it, and does it move humans? Sure, giving of gifts is a way of affecting and being affected by others. It is a way of affirming ones love in a relationship. We all need to be spin-ed. Why not?
The balance, however, is to know, it does not stand on its own. The greatest gift you can give is yourself, your time, your presence, your attention, your person. No physical gift will replace that.
The Saint.
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