Law 13: When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest, Never to their Mercy or Gratitude:
When you need help from someone in a position of power, appeal to their self-interest. They’ll be glad to help if they’ll get something in return, and you’ll get what you want without seeming desperate or irritating.
Everyone is naturally selfish in a good way. The default is to first lookout for ourselves, before we lookout for others. And there is nothing wrong with that except when taken to the extreme. We can only give from what we have, not what we do not have. That is why airplane passengers are admonished to first put on their oxygen mask before helping others with theirs.
Leaders understand this phenomenon and use it in rallying their team around the vision. They understand people are not for using, but for partnership. We partner with people, while we use things. People are not things. Leaders help each member of the team see what is in it for them as they contribute their part in fulfilling the team's vision.
The total man understands that to get what a woman provides, he first has to help his woman fulfilled as one. The reverse is also true. A total woman makes her man fulfilled as a man to get from him what a man provides. Make her a woman and you'll what a woman provides. Make him a man and you'll get what a man provides. She is not for using. He is not for using. She is for partnership. He is for partnership. He and she were created to provide from one another from their places of strength, as equals.
This is also true in every other human relationship. You have to give to get. Giving is the key to unlocking the riches of life.
Everyone is naturally selfish in a good way. The default is to first lookout for ourselves, before we lookout for others. And there is nothing wrong with that except when taken to the extreme. We can only give from what we have, not what we do not have. That is why airplane passengers are admonished to first put on their oxygen mask before helping others with theirs.
Leaders understand this phenomenon and use it in rallying their team around the vision. They understand people are not for using, but for partnership. We partner with people, while we use things. People are not things. Leaders help each member of the team see what is in it for them as they contribute their part in fulfilling the team's vision.
The total man understands that to get what a woman provides, he first has to help his woman fulfilled as one. The reverse is also true. A total woman makes her man fulfilled as a man to get from him what a man provides. Make her a woman and you'll what a woman provides. Make him a man and you'll get what a man provides. She is not for using. He is not for using. She is for partnership. He is for partnership. He and she were created to provide from one another from their places of strength, as equals.
This is also true in every other human relationship. You have to give to get. Giving is the key to unlocking the riches of life.
48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene: The 12th Law.
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