Saturday 12 June 2021

Who Did You Marry? (Part Three)

Redeem Your Pain:

Unfortunately, not too many people address the abuse incident(s) in their life appropriately. Many seek to bury and wish it away. They are continuously pinching themselves, waiting for the day they’ll wake up from the bad dream. Fortunately, or unfortunately, that day never comes. 

In fact, only last week, I was discussing with someone who believes God will delete the episode from her memory. Fortunately, or unfortunately, God NEVER does that. Only people do that to themselves out of denial. And, that does not take the pain away. It only takes life away.

It Happened:

That which happened is a reality. It is part of their life. It is part of their story. It cannot be wished away. It cannot be erased. It is a real occurrence. It is a real pain. It is really hurtful. It can only be used. It can only be allowed to heal. Otherwise, it will always remain ever fresh and mar the fullness of life meant to emanate from such. 
“Our strength grows out of our weakness.”Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life is not about erasing. Life is about confronting and using our pain. Some extreme cases will sure do with counseling for the person to function normally. And, we should NEVER be ashamed nor hesitant to seek help. (You are weak today does not mean you will be weak forever. It is only a passing phase. Don't marry it.) 

You Are Not Your Abuse:

The main thing is that any abuse case needs to be addressed. It must not be merely wished away or buried. It must be addressed. It must be defined in a way that empowers the abused to function normally. It must be defined to help the abused use the pain and the hurt, rather than be used by the pain and the hurt.
“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” Ralph Waldo Emerson/
There is life after your pain or hurt. There is a life after your death experience. You can pick yourself up again. Only you can define your life and what it is all about. Don’t give that power to anyone else. Don’t give that power to the abuser, pain, or hurt. 
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson.
You are the master of your fate and destiny. You are the captain of your soul. Let your fate be in line with your own dreams and aspirations. Let your soul go in the direction of your goals in/for life. You can do this. You can do it. Others have done it. Why not you?

“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” Ralph Waldo Emerson.

© 2015 Akin Akinbodunse

Links to Series:
Who Did You Marry? (Part Two)
Who Did You Marry? (Part Four)

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