Monday 25 March 2024

Showing Affection in Relationship | Part Two.

Maya Angelou teaches us, "I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back." This is true for most people, but not necessarily everyone. There are probably a few who don't appreciate it due to a damage or so in their history.

Generally, though, physical touch is a universal love language that cuts across tribes, cultures, and tongues. It is one of the most potent non-verbal way we communicate affection to one another. In scriptures, we read of Abraham and Sarah sporting. In today's English, the word "sporting" can easily be replaced with the word "fondling."

The extent of the fondling we allow or we give tells a great deal of how deep we are in our relationship, and how far we want the relationship to go. Abimelech could tell, by their fondling, the nature of Abraham and Sarah's relationship. He could tell where it was coming from, where it was, and where it was going to.

Sometimes people deceive themselves by sporting without intentions of commitment, nor preparedness for the possible end result(s). Why light a fire you cannot handle? Physical touch speaks volumes. Don't start something you cannot finish. Have healthy and functional boundaries around all your relationships. Know which type of physical touches you will allow and not allow, and let it be clear to all. 

Define your space, your territory, such that an intruder will know when the boundaries are tresspassed. Don't say, what you don't want to say by your physical touch. If you are married, you sure need to be doing more sporting, more fondling. This is more for the men. Our women want to be touched not just when you want to enter. If that is the only time you touch them, they feel used.

Make it a custom to touch your spouse from time to time, and often, especially away from when the real deal is about to go down. It opens the way for the entering when the real game is about to start. Our women want to be touched. Our men too want to be touched. They want to feel wanted and needed.

Let's touch.


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