Tuesday 12 October 2021

Talk Back To Your Inner Critic (2C/25). Part C.


This is the second of the "25 Ways To Improve Your Self Confidence (Drastically!)." It is rather long. So as not to bore anyone, I have chosen to break it into three (3) parts. Here we go with Part C.

Talk to Yourself:

"Preparation is the key to confidence," as Arthur Ashe so rightly said. We prepare by practicing. Practice does not make perfect, for everything can always be made better. Practice makes permanence, builds confidence, and makes better. We need to practice the vision of confidence we see of ourselves in the secret of our room; in front of the mirror; and with our tribe - our relatively safe place.

The second aid espoused by Bandura is the ability to synthesize from the experience of others. That is to see ourselves in the skin of our heroes. That is, the examples of confidence we admire and crave for. This supports our ability to visualize ourselves as confident, brave, and attractive. This is known in psychology as Positive Mental Imaging (PMI). It works by the law of attraction, to create a manifesting or becoming of the thing being focused on.

The third aid from Bandura is listening to others speak life to us. Those are words of encouragement that create the picture of us achieving our desired state. And, last of all, surely not the least, and most powerful are the words we speak to ourselves. This is found in each of the four and is the overarching aid. The words of others are only powerful if and when we accept them. 

Our words go directly to our subconsciousness, which works to make it true. Speak life to yourself. Speak that which you want, not what you do not want. Coin the story of your life in a way that supports your goal. Don't talk yourself down. Talk yourself up. Guess what? Your subconsciousness does not know the difference between reality and fiction. It will believe WHATSOEVER you tell it. 

Tell your subconsciousness what works for you. Make it your ally, not your foe. Why not?

St. Akin de Great.

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