A healthy, life-giving, and self-sustaining relationship is not automatic, nor is it an accident. It is predictable. It is the result of a clear vision, a deliberate plan, and execution. It does not just happen of its own accord.
It takes an investment of the right seeds, causes, and actions in getting back the desired harvest, effects, and reactions. It comes from response-able spouses who choose not to rest on excuses, but to rather take ownership of their relationship/marriage.
In the same token, losing is not an accident. It is the result of a deliberate plan (not planning). It is the result of spouses resting on sentiments instead of engaging their brain in fashioning out the best path for their relationship.
Common sense trumps sentiments any day and at any time. Yet commons sense is that sense which is not common, because it is not gifted to lazy minds and hands. Only the diligent know the secret fountains thereof of common sense emanates. This is what marks them out.
So, where do you fall into the divide? Are you winning in your relationships? Is your marriage prospering, or a sheer patch up? You do know you can make a difference. Right? No one has condemned you. Fate has no power over you. As Carl Gustav Jung teaches, "Fate is what we allow to direct our life when we are not conscious of the unconscious."
Fate loses its power when we stripe it naked. We rid it of its invisibility, unconscious embodying, and make plain to the ordinary eyes. fate dwells in secrecy when we refuse to stand up to the demands of life. Once, we decide to stand up in our place, fate disappears. Possibilities appear.
You can make your life whatsoever you desire it. and, you can start today. Winning and losing are habitual, but you choose the habit you want to have power over you. You are not powerless. You can choose. The question is what are you choosing? Don't forget that not choosing is a choice on its own.
So, no more excuses allowed. Make your life the way you want it to be.
What are you waiting for?
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