Friday 19 January 2018

Nice vs. Niceaholic? (Part One): In Love, But?

I Love You, But?

This series lives off the Divorce Court video of Mr. and Mrs. Lucas. The video is presented below.

For those who think Mrs. Lucas is a fathom of one’s imagination, wake up! There are Mr. and Mrs. Lucas all around us. And, not every Mrs. Lucas is a lady. Some men are just like that. Something similar happened to a friend of mine some two (2) decades ago.

So, the question that faces us does not do such persons exist. It is, how do such people come to be? Is there deliverance for them? Are they justified in some of their assertion? Or, are they altogether wrong? So, who is truly right? Who is truly wrong? 

Were there things Mr. Lucas could have done better and differently? Could their marriage (relationship) have been salvaged? Did Mrs. Lucas have a point? Were her fears valid and authentic? Could they be? As they say, there are two sides to every story. 

There is no smoke without fire. Never be too quick to assume the obvious. There might just be more to it than immediately apparent. Even though most of us are so quick to blame Mrs. Lucas, she does not hold all the blame. 

The issue in their home was a competition between "Niceness" and "Strangeness." They both were entitled to their grounds. What was missing was the common ground they could agree on. This is the bane of many a marriage. 

Love is not the issue. As can be seen in the Lucas family. They still love each other. They just did not understand each other and how to make it work with each other's uniqueness.
"After all these years, I am still involved in the process of self-discovery. It’s better to explore life and make mistakes than to play safe. Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life." — Sophia Loren.
Since "Strangeness" is pretty common and needs no explanation, I'll turn my attention to "Niceness" in this series.

© 2015 Akin Akinbodunse.

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