Fighting The Enemies of Marriage (Part Six):

Lack of Commitment (Part Five): Gamophobia

The fear of commitment in a social setting is known as Gamophobia. Gamophobia, like any other phobia, is an aberration; it is not the normal state of a person. It is one that comes about as a result of negative experiences and the environment a person has been subjected to. It is a lack of faith/trust in the power of providence. It is an overbearing desire to be in control, and not leave ANYTHING to chance. It sees commitment as a loss of freedom, possible loss of better alternatives, and/or paths in the future. Gamophobia is a wrestle with a demon(s) from one's past or that of someone close. This leaves such an indelible mark the person internalizes the occurrence. Such demons include rejections, breakups, disappointments, abuse, betrayal amongst others.

Gamophobia is a wrestle with demon(s) from one's past, or that of someone close.

Gamophobia can exhibit itself in the elusive search for the ideal, perfect, and unique soulmate. The ladies looking for the knight in shining armor, and the men looking for Cinderella. The truth is, there are no perfect human beings. Everyone is just as imperfect as you are. We each have our good and not so good sides. We are all broken and crazy in our own unique way. We are all work in progress. There is a soulmate for you, but he/she is not without flaws. Sorry to burst your bubble, but your soulmate is not perfect. He/she has rough edges, just like you. The perfect soulmate is a myth found only in Hollywood, Bollywood, Nollywood, and all the other woods and fairy tales. Every marriage becomes what the parties involved make of it. It requires work. No marriage works on autopilot. You make it what you desire it to be. There are no marriages made in heaven. They are each made, summated, and lived here on earth. Each one requires paying the requisite price.

There are no marriages made in heaven. They are each made, summated and lived here on earth.

So, how are you doing in the commitment department? How is your marriage/relationship fairing? How healthy is your relationship bank account? Are you making more deposits than withdrawals? Are you plagued by the demons of other people’s failures or your past? It is time to put things in their right perspective. It is time to trust providence for a brand new beginning and a better future. It is time to make deposits into your marriage relationship bank account. It is time to do it out of faith, not fear

"It is time to trust providence for a brand new beginning and a better future. 

"We men and women are all in the same boat, upon a stormy sea. We owe to each other a terrible and tragic loyalty. (G.K. Chesterton)

Make your marriage the one you want it to be. Make the right investments. A healthy, stable and rewarding marriage does not come by chance. It comes by choice, the willingness and act of making the right investment.

Links to Study Series
Fighting The Enemies of Marriage (Part Five)
Fighting The Enemies of Marriage (Part Seven)

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