Soulmates are Created, not Found.

"Over the years you will go through seasons in which you have to learn to love a person who you didn’t marry, who is something of a stranger. You will have to make changes that you don’t want to make, and so will your spouse. The journey may eventually take you into a strong, tender, joyful marriage. But it is not because you married the perfectly compatible person. That person doesn’t exist." ― Timothy Keller.

Where do we get this illusion of a perfect mate? We are all imperfect beings on our individual journey to perfection, maturity. We are each work-in-progress. None of us has it all together. All the fairy tales of a perfect spouse are exactly what they are - fairy tales. If you are not perfect, where do you suppose the perfect mate is going to drop?

There is a reason we call the people in the fairy tale movies “actors.” They are simply enacting the script they have been given, fitting into the imagination of the writer. That is not real life. The reality is that we each have our own faults and shortcomings. It is not for lack of wanting to be perfect. It is the reality of where we are at each point in the journey.

Marriage is about helping each other on this journey. It is not about what we can get. It is not about making demands. It is not about adding to the burden we each already bear. It is about what we can give. It is about creating a multiplier effect. It is about standing for, by, and with each other. It is about encouraging one another. This is how you create a true "Soulmate."

Soulmates are not born. Soulmates are not found. Soulmates are created by mutual sacrifice and dedication. Do you have a soulmate? Are you creating your soulmate? The soulmate you create today is who will be there for you in the evil day, which comes upon us all. Sow for your today. Sow for your tomorrow. Sow for eternity. You got it all in your hands.

St. Akin de Lover.

© 2015 Akin Akinbodunse.