Marriage is a Full-Time Job

Marriage sure is no part-time job. That is, if you intend to make something wonderful out of it. It requires an involvement of the whole of you – body, soul and spirit. And, there is no excuse around this. It really does not matter how you entered into it. That is no excuse. The question ALWAYS is, “What do you want to make of it?” That is what makes all the difference in how your marriage turns out.

As Bruce Lee will say, “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” Napoleon Bonaparte puts it this way, “Circumstances - what are circumstances? I make circumstances” Sorry, to be the one to bust your bubble, but you have no excuse. You have no hiding place. YOU create the right opportunities and circumstances for your marriage to prosper and blossom.

It is not your spouse. It is not the economy. It is not the country you live in. It is not your culture. It is not your children. It is not your in-laws. Let us put the responsibility right where it belongs. IT IS YOU. You make your marriage what you want it to be. You are a miracle worker. You can make something out of nothing. You are a superman/woman. You have ALL IT TAKES to make your marriage what you want it to be.

All you need do is check back into life. Begin to use all that you have been naturally endowed. First catch a vision of where you want your marriage to be. Be brutally honest with where it presently is – the opportunities, the threats, the strengths and the weaknesses. Then go to work on the opportunities and the strengths. The threats and the weaknesses have a way of taking care of themselves, for as long as you don’t exacerbate them.

It is time to get back to work. It is time to stoke the fire again and never stop. You have signed up for a lifetime job. Don’t check out on yourself. Make it a continual pleasurable ride. I trust you will. I know you will.

Tolerance: The Secret of a Happy Married Life (Part One)

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