The Neurotic (1/2):

An unsettled past is one of the symptoms of a neurotic person. There is something amiss in the way their brain processes things. It is hampered, hence loses its efficacy. As Dr. Nathaniel Branden, a psychotherapist, describes in his book, "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem," self-esteem is "the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness."

An unsettled past sickens the mind. Instead of a smooth flow at milliseconds processing speed between the various parts of the brain, our yesterday (past), today (present), and tomorrow (future), the flow is much slower. Its efficacy is diminished. The unresolved yesterday is challenged in providing the information the brain needs in making decisions for today and the future. 

The consonance is lost, or out of sync. This exhibits itself as stress in the physical body, anxiety in the psychological sphere, and sheer disorientation in the total make-up of the person. The remedies to the loss cannot be applied until there is a real and full coming to the realization of the new normal. Only then can they be touched and handled by the remedies.

© 2015 Akin Akinbodunse


Links to Related Articles:
Grief, But Don't Lose Your Heart (2/2)

The Power in You (A Personal Testimony) — Part Three.

Links to Other Resources:

Option B by Sheryl Sandberg.

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.