Tuesday, 11 July 2017

The Power of Saying NO

The No That Answers to My Yes
The greatest word that will guarantee your success in life is “NO.” It is the ability and courage to say “NO” to the things that are not in line with your dreams, vision, and goals. There are only so many things you can do and do well. Success and effectiveness in life is all a function of how you focus your energy on those things. And, refuse to be distracted by the other things that do not really matter. Only fools don’t know how to say “No.”

Sorry for my bluntness, but you got to be bigger than some things. You got to have a class. You cannot afford to say “Yes” to all things. "The art of leadership is saying no, not saying yes. It is very easy to say yes." (Tony Blair) You got to have a personality. You deserve to be happy. "Learn to say no. It will be of more use to you than to be able to read Latin." ( C. H. Spurgeon) If you cannot say “No,” you cannot be happy. Period!

Inability to say “No” is an indication you are not in control. It is an indication you are not in control of your life. It is an indication you are lost, hopeless, and without a vision. You have to learn to say, “No,” to the things that are not in agreement with your life. That way you can have time and space for the things that are in agreement. Don't be held captive by the "visibility trap." It is not true.
"Visibility trap: It is a worry or belief people have that if they are not in every meeting they are either a) not a vital contributor b) not visible to senior leaders or c) going to miss something critical." (Craig Cincotta)
Learn to say no to the things that are not in line with your goals. You don’t have to follow every wind that comes your way. You are in charge of setting the sail. Set it only in the direction of the future you desire. You are answerable for the end product. Hence, the onus is on you to take responsibility today. You’ll be glad you did. Say no to the things that do not add to your bottom line. "People are effective because they say “no,” not because they say “yes,” because they say “this isn’t for me.” (Peter Drucker)

Learn to say, “NO,” and you would have added a few more years to your life. You would have made your life a lot more successful and effective. Never forget the decision is always yours to make. The onus is on you. Make the right decision. You don’t have to please, or impress anybody. You owe no one such debt. You just have to bring some sunshine into your life.

"Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need other’s approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her."  (Lao Tzu) WHATEVER you do not have the freedom to say NO to, you also do not have the freedom to say YES to. Freedom to say YES assumes the freedom to say NO. They are mutually inclusive. Exercise your freedom for your own good and happiness. 

"What kills us isn't one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can't turn down for fear of disappointing others." (Alain de Botton) Say, YES to life, NO to bondage, or anything less than all God has for you. You only get to live this life once. Make it worth the while. 

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